The tooth battle is lost

At 31 years old, I’m still paying for the mistakes I made as a child/teenager when it comes to my teeth. I refused to use toothpaste because I hated the taste of mint, eventually giving in to a strawberry-flavoured one. Then I only brushed once a day for my entire adolescence. It wasn’t until I looked into getting braces at around 20 years old that I realised the damage I’d done. I had to get a full periodontal clean at the cost of €1,200 (which my parents and grandmother covered). Then I got my braces.

For a few years after that I still wasn’t the best at taking care of my teeth, not even great at wearing my retainer. But then I noticed one of my bottom front teeth was loose so I went to the dentist. I think I only ever saw that dentist once and he splinted my tooth to the teeth on either side of it. Again, it took me another little while to finally knuckle down and see the dentist regularly (every four months) for a scale and polish, and I now wear my retainer every second night in bed.

It was going good for a while until my dentist expressed concern for my splinted tooth and told me back in October that I may have to return to my periodontist. I did not want that but I figured it’d be worth it to have a healthy mouth. When I return to the clinic in February, I had a new dentist. She was much better and easier to talk to and she immediately referred me back to my periodontist.

I attended my periodontist on Thursday last, expecting to find out that I may lose my splinted tooth. But it was worse… I will lose not only my splinted tooth but the teeth on either side of it (three in total). My periodontist informed me that splinting the teeth only allowed them to destroy each other. She wasn’t impressed with my dentist not giving me any options when it was apparent the teeth were essentially in bits. She also didn’t speak well of my orthodontist, but that’s another matter.

My options include either waiting it out for a few years for the teeth to fall out, all the while not being able to bite very well. Or I can have them extracted and replaced with a denture (temporarily) before investing in two dental implants and a bridge.

The battle is lost. I know it didn’t seem like I fought very hard and when I did it was too little too late. I’ve always had a fear of losing my teeth. And as bad as it sounds, people with missing front teeth freak me out. Maybe it was those God awful mouthwash ads that showed people with perfectly white teeth with one missing.

Right now, I’m still processing it but I know I can’t leave them to fall out on their own. Who knows what further damage they may end up doing. Sigh.

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Off Topic Thursday: less plastic

This is inspired by a similar post by Taking on a World of Words. After listening to an episode of Stuff You Should Know about recycling, I was stunned to realise that I was a recycling more than I needed to. In other words, I was buying more and more plastic and assuring myself that it was OK because I was recycling. Recycle is actually the last word on the Reduce, Reuse and Recycle phrase. Ideally the first thing people should aim for is to reduce. After that try to reuse some stuff. Then and only then should you recycle.

Once this revelation hit me I decided to see what I could reduce. I’m still a long way from where I want to be in this regard but here is a list of stuff I’ve been experimenting with:

1. Carton packaged eggs

Sure you’ll get more in a box if you opt for plastic, but more isn’t always better and I’m now buying a box of twelve carton-packaged eggs a week.

2. Using mouthwash tablets

I haven’t yet received these and I’m a little nervous but I go through so many bottles of mouthwash it’s ridiculous. Georganics do cruelty-free mouthwash tablets in both a 3-month and 1-year supply glass jar. It’ll certainly be a relief not having to travel with a bottle of mouthwash that has the potential to spill.

3. Pit Putty

You heard me right! Irish-made, this natural deodorant comes in a decent sized aluminium tin and has four different scents. I’m currently using lemon and lavender and it smells gorgeous! For a while I was using the Greeeeench from Lush but it’s too messy and it comes in a plastic bottle. This I highly recommend because it works!

4. Shampoo bars

Now I’m struggling with this because my scalp is so sensitive and I can’t find a cruelty-free shampoo with no parabens or sulphates that doesn’t dry it out. I invested in a bottle of Aveda designed to help with this and it ticked all the boxes bar plastic and it’s not helping. Waste of €25! I’ve tried a few Lush shampoo bars but they’re not great either, plus they have sulphates and I want to avoid them now. I’ve ordered a shampoo bar from Little Green Shop and it’s supposed to help balance sebum levels (which I’m only assuming is what’s causing my scalp problems). Fingers crossed!

5. Homemade cat food

Sachets of cat food are so wasteful and there’s a poor selection of tinned cat food in my local supermarket. I looked up homemade cat food recipes and so far I’ve made two dishes: mackerel with chicken broth and rice – Oreo didn’t like it but Jessie did, though it did give her the runs. Then I tried boiled chicken with carrot, broccoli and chicken broth, which she loved. I’m going to try a beef recipe next to give her some variety and hopefully down the road I can stop buying Whiskas.

Other possibilities:

I currently use an electric toothbrush that I’ve had for 10 years and hasn’t let me down. It’s recommended using a bamboo toothbrush but I can’t bring myself to get rid of something so reliable. Plus I have a tonne of replacement heads. So this is still a maybe. I also want to use laundry nuts once our current detergent runs out. My sister-in-law uses them and recommends them. And of course, toothpaste tablets!

Reusable items:

As I’ve mentioned I’ve tried a lot of shampoos which means I’m left with half full bottles of a few that didn’t work. I looked up ways to reuse them and it turns out there’s a tonne of them! Right now I’m using one of them as a hand soap, but they also clean dishes, laundry stains, etc. I’m delighted they won’t go to waste now.

That’s my list so far, here’s to being green!

 

Jessie

My 12-year-old dog Jessie sadly passed away last Thursday. She had been very ill between her diabetes, blindness, heart murmur, growth in her throat, one side of her head sinking and crushing down on her eye. We only had her for six years after adopting her at six years old following the death of our last dog Sheba.

I’ve always been there when we say goodbye to our pets but my mam made the tough decision to send Jessie over Rainbow Bridge herself. I’ll admit I was angry at first, devastated that I would never see my dog again, but I can understand now that putting it off would’ve only prolonged her suffering.

Some of you may remember that I only lost my other dog Poppy back in October, which was soon followed by the death of my grandmother. They say bad things come in threes and it would seem that that’s been the case for my mam and me. Now that I’ve moved out, the house is empty for my mam. Our cat Ali is not the lovable type most of the time so she’s of little comfort. She’ll adopt again but Jessie will never be forgotten.

Something curious happened two days before Jessie passed. I arrived home and received a nasty shock when I found a full-grown sparrow in my kitchen. My cat Oreo had been chasing the poor thing around for God knows how long – there were feathers everywhere. It must’ve come down the chimney. I let it out and the vet assured me if it flew out it was likely alright. Everyone seemed most surprised at the fact that it was a full grown bird and not a baby that had simply fallen from the nest on my roof. Then on Saturday, two days after Jessie’s passing, my sister-in-law revealed to me an Old Wives Tale that suggests a bird entering a home is a warning that a death will occur in the family. Was that why a fully grown bird somehow came down my chimney?

I miss Jessie terribly and as I heal I feel guilty. Should I be healing so soon? I can only assure myself that she’s in a better place with Poppy and Sheba and the devastatingly long list of other pets I’ve lost in my lifetime. There has to be something beyond this.

It’s all about control

I believe I experienced first-hand just how little control I have over my day. Stoicism has been trying to hammer it into me, but I guess I needed to experience it for myself. Here’s what happened.

Work was done for the day and I decided to grab a few ingredients for making my own cat food (this is part of my goal of ridding as much plastic from my life as I can), then I chose to take a different route home for a change. I’ve driven this road hundreds of times because I went to college near where I work, but I only take the route now and then.

I was making good time when suddenly a car moved out from the left, somehow not seeing me. I slammed on my brakes as hard as I could, but we made contact. I could hear the crunch of my bumper hitting that of the other car. I was pretty shaken up and there was little to no damage somehow though the other drive insisted on paying me for any potential repairs I may need. She was so unbelievably calm about it whereas I was a mess. We parted ways and I rang M to let him know what had happened. Then I went to start my car, and…nothing. My battery had completely died. For a few minutes I sat thinking ‘what the hell am I going to do? I’m stuck’. Then I remembered I had breakdown assistance as part of my insurance policy.

I wound up waiting an hour, but my car was jump-started within seconds and I got home just over two hours after I’d finished work. M said I was grey when he first saw me. I had had a migraine before the accident and so my head was pounding on top of my shock.

That was yesterday. I’m fine now, still with a touch of a headache but I’m taking something for it. Both me and my car are in one piece, that’s the main thing. I kept thinking of all the choices that lead to me being in that situation, then I remembered something I heard on Reddit. Think of all the crashes/near-misses/accidents I’ve avoided by the choices I made. And sadly, life is out of my control. I can plan everything down to a tee, but it could easily go south.

And here’s a fun fact: I’ve only ever experienced one other minor road incident. It was while I was in college and I bumped into the car in front. Again, there was no damage (though the other driver initially tried to get compensation). And get this – it was on the EXACT same road I hit the car yesterday. I think I’ll avoid that road for a while!

The thought journal

The thought journal is a method recommended as part of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The idea is to write down negative [automatic] thoughts that come into your head and then challenge them through a series of headings as follows:

  1. Situation (what, where, when, who)
  2. Emotion and Intensity (0-100)
  3. Automatic Thought(s)
  4. Evidence For
  5. Evidence Against
  6. Alternative Thought & New Mood Rating

At least that’s what I took from the book I read Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: 7 Ways to Freedom from Anxiety, Depression and Intrusive Thoughts by Lawrence Wallace. The idea is to not only challenge negative thinking but to find patterns and thus deduce what the underlying problem is. I’ve only just started, not even sure if I’m doing it right. Will I find a pattern? Or at least be able to challenge them down the line without needing a notebook?

Never wake up angry

We’ve been in our house for nearly three months now. Unfortunately our adjoining neighbours aren’t the best, especially the kids. My mam made us three little ornaments for the little flower bed in our front garden. I was antsy about leaving them there, convinced they’d be stolen. For a few days they weren’t touched, except one of the kids walking on the plants my mam had planted to get into their own garden (we don’t yet have gates).

After a night out, we returned home on Saturday night and found one of the ornaments missing. I was devastated. I cried that night and I woke up the next morning furious and yet not able to confront my neighbours. I’ve a fear of being yelled at, mostly because it reduces me to tears. For example, my brother snapped at me on Saturday for giving his six-month-old son a soft biscuit and I had to fight my tears.

Do classes exist where people continuously shout at you until you can handle it? The closest I’ve found is assertiveness classes, which I keep promising myself I’ll do.

In the meantime, I took up the remaining two garden ornaments and put them in the back garden.

Stoicism in the face of rudeness

I’m trying to avoid getting upset or annoyed when someone is rude to me or cuts me off in traffic, but it’s not easy when there are so many people who seem hellbent on making your life miserable. For example, a car driving behind me yesterday nearly collided with a car coming the opposite way in order to overtake me. The other car flashed its lights in a panic because they came so close. He/she couldn’t hang on just a few seconds until the other car passed. And in the end, I wound up ahead of him due to traffic lights. What was the point?

Getting angry at someone else gives them power, and I truly believe that. The best I can do is get annoyed in the moment but try to let it go so I’m not dwelling on it.

How do you deal with rude people?